What do you think of Davina's tale?

Do you agree with Davina that orphaned children are better off with their own people? Is it insensitive to adopt a needy child from a different culture?

Comments

[Demi]

this tale by davina moved me , it made me cry and my child has been learning about this in school so i know what they are going through

[Heva]

Whats happening to the Women in Malawi is horrible. However, maternity standards in the UK are not high either. How can we set a good example to the world if we can't even manage to do it ourselves. After 5days in labour, in and out of hospital, an emergency c/section as the hospital left me too long, then to add insult to injury immediately after my baby (my first!) was born my womb wouldn't contract (probably because of all the stress) I underwent life saving surgery, this wasn't going to plan and their final hope was to give me a hysterectomy!!! At 31 and having only just given birth to my first child in the most stressful way I had to live with the fact I can't have any more - its horrendous!!! I so feel for the mothers of Malawi as this must happen to them so many times and its just not right. In the uk about 2 in every 10,000 births end this way and we are meant to feel like the lucky ones!! Thats 2 in 10,000 too many. When medical technology is so advance there shouldn't be deaths or near deaths during what is meant to be one of the most wonderful days of your life.

[m]

I think they should be left in their countries but people like madonna and davina are in a position to fund new beds and equipment to reduce the suffering surely.
She might have a photo of him on her desk but sponsership would give him more and his family surely

[Elena]

No, I think it better to adopt the child and bring him to the UK, where's hi will have live! You can send money every month for the child, but will you know that money spend wisely? NO. My opinion very strong - if you want to help - give real help - adopt, give education, and off you go... maybe child will come back and with good education help his oun people!
Anyway, we are different and have different opinions on everything...

[Judy R]

I agree with Davina that, if possible, it is certainly better that an orphaned child stay with and be raised by their family or even close family friends.

Sadly however, sometimes this is just not an option, and in the unfortunate situation where the child has no family, I personally don't think the colour of our skin or the country we were born in makes any difference. The child should be allowed to be adopted by a responsible family, from anywhere, who can offer the child genuine love, security, and quite importantly, the religious beliefs of the child's birth parents.

[angie]

It is very hard to say if you agree or disagree with adopting children from different ethnic backgrounds. Reading davinas story my first thought was i could adopt one or two of those babies and bring them to england, give them a home, love, food education all the things that a child deserves, but would i be able to teach that child about their culture, thier famlies. As foster parents we are told that the most important thing to the child we look after is a sence of belonging. What their family history is and their religious parctise is. It doesnt matter what our opinion of the family is you have to maintain that link. Could you do that with a child from Africa. Maybe the stars can with all their money, they can afford the trips back and forwards to keep them in touch with thier own country, but the lady who has enough love in her heart to look after just one of these babies cant afford to do that, she only has books and tv to do that for her and that can damage a child, how can that child expect to accept itself if he's brought up in a different place to where he was born. I have a niece who is mixed race and she is in year 5 at school and has just started to realise her colour is different from all the rest of the family, we love her for herself not the colour of her skin, but will she one day want to find out about her other family{she calls them her brown family] can we help her do that yes we can, as we know who they are, could we do it with a child from Africa, no we couldnt because we might have the love, determination and devotion to think we could but practically no.