What do you think of Karen's behaviour?

Have you ever been a mistress? Are you worried about your man straying?

Comments

[Hercolena]

This young lady has an important trait many others are lacking and that is honesty.

[Tony]

Well done Karen - go out and enjoy yourself - you are a lovely lady who is attractive to men. Obviously some other women are going to be jealous or maybe annoyed because you are a free woman. I am a man and would love to have many relationships but women become very possessive and I am divorced still looking for that elusive lady who I wish to spend the rest of my life with - shame you do not like Sky Sports hehehe!!

[mr]

I suppose any article like this will envoke some great debate!

Essentially are we all insecure? Some of us know it and some of us will always deny it - it makes you think!

We all need to look around and work out what we all want, maybe more importantly what we are willing to do to keep them. This encompasses all things - people, feelings, material goods - What is important to you??

Don't forget it's different strokes for different folks and we should never judge someone until we really know them. Of course an article like this makes you wonder - do you really know them?

I'm pleased for Karen that she's enjoying her life and wish her all the best.......I'm sure she's met some lovely people over the years, their actions will be on their minds!

Have we all met someone like Karen but didn't know it?
Should we keep our wives and husband's locked up?

I'll be checking the blogg - interesting to see what people are up to these days!

[Emma]

Karen and these men are both to blame yes the if the man is looking for an affair they find one so if they not with her they would be with someone else but any good decent person would chose not to get involved in hurting someone else just for a few months of cheap thrills that could result in ruining someones entire life and destroy families. Think of the effects it would have on the children in these relationship if the families were torn apart because of this kind of betrayal so your not just destroying the marriage but also the lives of the children involved no descent person would want to be a part of that. i think anyone who thinks if a good idea to do something like that should be ashamed of themselves

[christine]

I was married for 12 years and my husband had an affair.Which upset me tonnes and vowed id never go near a married man.
Was single for 10 years and went out every weekend with friends and oh my god there were so many married men comming on to me it was unreal.
Same old story if men can get away with it they will,im with a great bloke now but under no illusions that if he meets someone else it can happen again.
You can be the best wife in the world but that is not insurance against,a weak moment it only takes one wrong and everything changes.
My advice is love and be loved dont take anyone for granted even the love of your life.

[lippy linda]

do her friends have to watch their husbands around her?

[Tristan]

She must be really good at what she does because she's surely not getting them by her looks alone. She's just a sad pathetic woman that needs to the use others as she feel she was used. Having an affair is bad enough, and I am willing to overlook a mistake but to purposefuly seek out married man for affairs is unforgivable.

[Julie Pease, Warrington]

Why don’t the women who claim to be “clickaholics” take the simple step of turning off their computers? If they have to use a computer for work, use them during work hours, then turn them off and do something else.

[Bernadette]

I personally think Karen looks fine, she's taking care of herself and I think that photo maybe isn't doing her justice. But to those who are criticising just her appearance and not the article, might I point out that if photographs were published with their comments they may well be leaving themselves wide open for criticism too. If you're not perfect should you have the right to criticise someones image? She looks like a real woman to me, and maybe that is what the men appreciate so much.

[Alan Ratcliff]

After reading the article in your magazine I formed the opinion at least Karen seemed to be honest and open and practices what she preaches. I have read some of the other comments on here which I can only assume is hereditary smallmindedness, and a typically British attitude. Having travelled the world and experienced a variety of cultures, most other men and women are fairly open with their morals and ethics. There seem to be an awful lot of frustrated comments on here which I can only assume are coming from prudes who clearly have their own insecurities and issues.

Wouldn't it be refreshing if we could leave the 'Mary Whitehouse Syndrome' where it firmly belongs, in the past. Why is it people are so quick to judge and come down against a woman who is honest and open with her actions when it takes two to tango. Condemning Karen is grossly unfair as the men she has met ought to be faithful to their wives and marriage vows in the first place.

The words 'Glass house' and 'Stones' come to mind!

[Karen Marley]

I can't stress enough that this is, and never will be, about 'no strings sex'. I DO NOT sleep with all of these men! And you're right, I could find sex from single men but the whole point of this article seems completely lost! This is not about sex. This is not about me being damaged, sad or lonely. This is about a strong, self assured, confident woman bucking the trend and doing what SHE wants to do instead of conforming to how women are expected to be.

What a shame the point was lost!

[Edwina Mc Manus]

I think the morals of these type of women are seriously lacking and deluded!!!if they just wanted no strings sex they could find plenty of single men out there only to willing to indulge them!!!The fact they see it as a challenge or game breaking the hearts of the wives and children involved,leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth.yes the men play their part too,but i cant help thinking some of the women in your article play on slightly gullible and vunerable men,who may be have a few marital grievences at the time these type of women strike!!i think that the have no right to be proud of the fact they were able to intice these stupid and unfaithful men away from their families.

[Lianne]

I think the point that everyone seems to be missing here is that these men have already chosen to have an affair. They have joined sites like IE because they have made a decision to cheat on their wives and if it wasn't Karen, then it would be any number of women.
Karen is a single woman who can date who she chooses to. Perhaps people should be criticising the men who actively look for affairs. They are the ones that have the most to lose and are the ones who are ultimately lieing to their families and risking hurting their loved ones.
I have been in a long term relationship for 7 years. If my partner strayed then it would be him I would be angry with him, not with the other woman. He has a choice as to whether he keeps it in his pants or not!!

[Karen Marley]

Just thought I'd respond to all the comments referring to me as 'sad'. I'm not. I've never been happier. I'm not remotely lonely because I work (the hours I want to work), I have alot of friends (the friends I want to spend time with), a fantastic social life (going where I want to go) and I have my freedom to have my lovely, peaceful, single life. I don't have to pick up dirty socks or pants, if I want an hour in the bath with a glass of wine and a book I do, if I want to watch MY tv then I will, without anyone turning it onto Sky Sports. And on top of that I get to date highly successful, charismatic, intelligent men, who are interesting, charming and funny. I'm incredibly choosy about who I date, and I'm very proud of my choices.

During this credit crunch most husbands and wives have worries, the gas bill, the mortgage, the kids school fees, not to mention being tired from working so hard. I don't get to hear about any of this. The men I date need an ego massage, they need to feel good again, they need attention, they need affection and they need to be reminded that they haven't 'lost it'. Most are very happy at home, but lack something 'extra'. On many occasions I actively encourage them to try harder at home, to make more effort with their appearance and to pay more attention to their wives, who are probably feeling as neglected as them.

I'm not a man stealing bitch, I'm just a single woman, who has CHOSEN to date married men because it suits my lifestyle. It is not because I 'can't find a single man who will have me' and its not because I'm 'so damaged I have put up walls', it is because it is MY choice to, and I'm more than happy doing it.

Everyone is entitled to their opinions and I have read the comments with interest. I've come forward to encourage debate about this subject, not to draw attention to myself. I am proud of who I am, I may not be everyones cup of tea, but I do very well just as I am. Maybe I'm like Marmite, you will either love me or hate me, but I am very happy in my skin. If I am a fat, over the hill, frump then I'm sure the men in this world will avoid me like the plague, but funnily enough that isn't happening and thats all I need to know.

Thank you for your comments, but 'sad and lonely' I am not. Far from it.

[Kerry]

I hope she settles down soon and her man strays seriously get a grip on your life learn when to stop.
Does she even think for a minue how the wife may feel??!!!

She is nothing but a fat disgraceful HOMEWRECKER!!

Get a life

[Samantha]

This lady is a disgrace! It isn't just men who are capable of cheating but most don't as there would be no point to marriage if you could stray. I got married in September and this story really annoyed me. She should be ashamed of herself.

[Jennifer]

Its okay to keep telling women to look good etc etc for their man to keep him, but why are we not telling men the same thing. My husband went off after 20 years with a 23 year old. There was no way at 40 could I compete and quite frankly didn't want to.

[saah]

why has she spoken out about it!? i thought the affairs were supposed to be illicit and secret?
shes obviously very insecure about herself and abit sad really, she cant find a single man so tries to justify her behaviour by saying married man are better for her... ermm ok love.
A very selfish and sad women who is getting on abit!

[C. Elliott]

Karen's behaviour?Stupid,Selfish,i just hope that she ends up being the sad old loner she deserves to be(which should be any day now!)

[Becca Bartram]

I'm not a married woman but I DO actually feel sorry for Karen! I don't believe she is happy in herself. Karen has been burned by previous relationships (haven't we all) but uses this an excuse to have these 'flings'. Therefore, she has replaced emotions with walls. If Karen can work through the fact that not all relationships are going to last forever, be happy in herself without seeking temporary comfort in a married man's arms, i believe she will then have the self respect and confidence to find a 'single' man that will be compatible with her. Yes, it takes two to 'tango' but look at it the other way Karen, if you were married and had children and your husband went off regularly seeing someone else, how would you feel if you found out?

[Jane]

Isn't it about time married men were given tips on how to keep their wives happy. I am sick to death of tips on how to keep a man. The trouble is we women are conditioned to beleive we must keep them happy

[Annette]

Go for it girl, behind you 100%, theres no safer man than a married man in my experance. No commitment no worries.

[Emma]

Hi there, I think that Karen Marley is incredibly sad, and she's not fooling anyone. I don't believe for one minute that she never sits back and feels lonely, while all these men of 'hers' go back to their wives and kids. She may enjoy being wined and dined, but at the end of the day she's left with no one. I think she deserves to be taught a lesson and Id like to see what would happen if she met one of the wives. The fact that she blames the wive is just laughable- she really thinks bringing up your childrens is a reason for having an affair? She clearly needs her head read, and I hope your next article will be featuring one of the wives that has hunted her down!!

[kzwhitesclub]

You must be joking this cannot be serious looking at her she is over the hill and certainly not mistress material !!!

[Greg]

42?! She is more like 52. And what on earth do the men see in her? She is a fat unattractive middle aged frump. They must be desperate beyond belief.